Do you roll your eyes and groan more than you laugh and smile when you go through your various social media? Then it may be time to clear the social media, the Marie Kondo style.
Social media should get you happy
Social media is often stressful. Following many people is time consuming and it distracts you from the people and things that are really important in your life. Your social media will bring you joy, whether it is in touch with friends or family, learning new things you are interested in or just agree with your favorite parties or athletes. It should not be an infinite supply of negative people, arguments and things you do not care about.
If you use social media do not make you happy, what is the purpose of using it in the first place? Fortunately, if you want to make a change, it is possible, and Marie Kondo's method of cleaning can help with that.
Who is Marie Kondo?
If you have not noticed, decluttering has become a big mistake lately thanks to a new Netflix series called "Tidying Up with Marie Kondo". It has a new family every episode and documents its travels to decouple their homes to live happier lives.
Marie Kondo is a crucial expert who has written several books about the art of organizing and getting rid of things you do not need. With the KonMari method (created by Kondo himself), viewers and readers are told to go through each of their objects one by one and just keep things as "spark joy". Everything else is thrown out (after thanks of course).
It's not just about freeing up physical space in your home. You have items that do not give you the pleasure of focusing on items that do. Likewise, cleaning your social media can let you focus on the people you care about. Those who give you joy.
The KonMari method contains five categories: books, papers, komono (various articles) and sentimental objects. Declutterers go through each category in their home one by one, making it easier to remove all the scratches.
All this is really aimed at physical things in your home that take place, but you can easily apply the KonMari method for social media. It is easy to believe that digital interference is not a problem because we can only follow a lot of people without taking up physical space, but it takes up space on our screens and in our minds. Following many people on social media can be distracting, stressful and time consuming, just like managing the mess in your home.
Visualize your ideal social life
One of the first things Kondo recommends to people is to visualize their ideal lives to get them on the right track when they begin their crucial journey. Try to apply the same concepts to social media.
Picture your ideal social media experience. When you go through your social media from day to day, what feelings do you want to feel? How much time would you prefer to spend by browsing posts? What kind of content do you want most to see in your feeds?
Maybe you want to prioritize posts from your close friends and family? Maybe you want to focus more on your hobbies? In any case, you might want to get rid of the negative people you follow. Whatever you want to get from social media, keep that in mind as you go through your digital decoupling.
KonMari-ing your social media
So what would your social media bring in? It is not like social media that contains things like books, papers and random things that are in your garage, but we can still translate these steps into our digital life. Kondo will after all publish a new book next year and discuss how to clean up our digital upset.
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Instead of categories such as books, papers and komono, we can break up social media that closes to own categories for to make the process a little easier.
Start by reviewing your friends list on Facebook and the people you follow on Twitter and Instagram. From there, check on each of your friends and followers one by one and ask yourself if you like to see the things they send. In other words, do these people spark joy when they post a new update or photo? If you do not want to be so hard, you can "dampen them" – you will still follow / friends them, but you will not see any of their posts. It's a little confusing on Facebook because they call this "unfollowing", but you'll still be Facebook friends. You can also snooze a Facebook friend for 30 days if you want to give it a trial run of varieties.
Don't feel bad about this – the person you're following (on Facebook) or dampening (on Twitter or Instagram) doesn't even know it.
Next, go through all the Facebook pages that you have "liked" and hashtags that you follow on Instagram. Like your individual friends, there may be some Facebook pages and hashtags that you followed long ago that you have now become irrational browsing every time because it is no longer interesting.
Sift through Facebook groups, Instagram group chats or other communities that you are part of on social media. There have been many times where I have joined a Facebook group, and the discussion was just not fruitful. But instead of leaving the group, I just stop ignoring it and rolling by.
Now you can organize what's left with all the mess that remains. For example, Facebook can choose some friends to show first in your news feed, and add friends to custom lists (like just friends living in your city or just near your friends).
On Twitter, you can also create custom lists and add some users, even if you don't follow them. This is a great way to clean up your main food and separate all into organized, cured lists.
Decide whether a particular social network is worth using in the first place. While going through your various social media accounts, there may be a point when you realize that there is nothing (or very little) about what sparks joy for you. There is nothing wrong with removing your Facebook, Twitter or Instagram account if it is something that would eventually make you happy.
The conclusion is that the use of social media should be fun and entertaining. But in the end, it should make you happy. If your social media feeds just make you angry or annoyed, what's the point? Social media should spark joy, not frustration.